5 Ways To Improve Your Relationship

Any relationship is going to go through its rocky times. It’s inevitable. Granted, these rough times should happen far less than the great times but you have to be ready with a way to handle these bumps in the road. These trying times are healthy for a relationship, but what’s more important is you how handle them. It’s a two-way street, but you have to be ready to meet your partner halfway. Consider these tips to follow when you do encounter your next rough patch:

1. Switch things up. If you’re in a relationship where you two are soul mates and can predict each other’s next move then do something out of character. It’s easy to fall into a rut where the mystery is taken out of the relationship. Do something unpredictable and you’ll bring back the excitement you felt when you were just starting out.
2. Communicate. This is a no-brainer, right? Everybody doesn’t talk about issues the same way as the next person. It’s important you realize this and don’t let it upset you if your partner doesn’t talk about problems as easily as you might. All you can do is encourage them to talk and let nature take its course.
3. Tolerance goes a long way. Everyone has their shortcomings and it’s not right to try to change every little thing that annoys you. If your boyfriend gets fired up watching a sporting event and screams at the television, then recognize that he’s a passionate man. Look at the bright side of some behaviors that you initially dislike.
4. Make time for just the two of you. Technology has infiltrated our lives in almost every facet. In most respects it’s a good thing, but if it has started cutting into your intimate times then you have to start setting rules. If you send a text message you almost become paralyzed waiting for the reply message. Set up a time when technology is off-limits. This may sound rigid, but it’s important that your intimacy isn’t forsaken.
5. Return to the days of courtship. This goes back to the first tip, but it’s important that you do the things that made you fall in love in the first place. Dinner and a movie are fine sometimes but go on real dates as if you were still courting each other. This will make your partner know that you know them and what they want. Go to the art museum that you used to frequent or the lake with the beautiful view that you used to take long strolls around. Don’t forget what got you to this wonderful place.

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Kyra eBook Edition, This One Will Surprise You...

Have you ever had the experience of reading a book that you aren't even sure you like, but somehow can't but it down?

Kyra by Carol Gillian was like that for me.  Part of my brain kept thinking, "why am I reading this, it is boring and painful".  But I still couldn't put it down.  I actually read the whole thing in one long lazy Saturday afternoon.

On the face of it, there isn't a reason that I should have even picked the book up, much less been unable to put it down.  I know almost nothing about architecture or urban planning and possibly less about opera.  I am not in the habit of analyzing cultures, music or art.  Mainly, I am not big on suffering for love.  Yet with all of those strikes against it, Kyra was a strangely compelling book.

Gilmore is a graceful and fluent writer.  She has a tremendous grasp of her subject matter -- architecture, opera and therapy.  Somehow (against all odds), she seamlessly weaves these complex themes into a kind of love story.  Interestingly enough, a love story with a "happily ever after" end.

The characters, Kyra and Andreas, are complex and have extremely complicated lives.  They are both sophisticated, brilliant and creative.  Their careers serve as the ballast for the emotional life.  As they work together and fall in love, everything they believe begins to morph into something different. 

This story of how they fall in love is strangely academic and cerebral.  It shouldn't work, but somehow it does.

Kyra is more than a love story but less than a romance.  Difficult to explain.  This is a book you need to experience.

I suspect that urban planners and opera fans would find this book a treasure trove of ideas and sensations.  Psychologist and people familiar with psychotherapy would find it challenging.  And yet it also works for the casual reader.  Certainly, it is not everyone's cup of tea.

This is a great book club selection.  The story and themes are great discussion material.  And yet, you don't need to belong to a book club to read and enjoy this book.

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Here is the publishers synopsis:

An unforgettable novel about love–and the first work of fiction by the author of the groundbreaking nonfiction bestseller In a Different Voice

Kyra is an architect, involved in a project to design a new city. Andreas, a theater director, is staging an innovative production of the opera Tosca. Both have come through political upheaval and personal loss. Neither wants to fall in love. Yet when she asks him, “What is the opposite of losing?” and he says, “Finding,” it galvanizes a powerful attraction, and they risk opening themselves to love once again.

When their love affair leads to a shocking betrayal, Kyra’s fierce determination to see under the surface, to know what was true and real, brings her to Greta, a remarkable therapist. As the therapy itself repeats the themes of love and loss, Kyra challenges its structure, and the struggle that ensues between the two women opens the way to a larger understanding.

Passionate and revolutionary, Kyra is an exquisitely written love story, imbued with gentle humor. This is an extraordinary work of fiction by one of the most brilliant writers of our time.

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